{"id":1190,"date":"2012-08-01T13:19:24","date_gmt":"2012-08-01T11:19:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/investigate-islam.com\/web\/web\/?p=1190"},"modified":"2012-08-01T13:19:24","modified_gmt":"2012-08-01T11:19:24","slug":"islam-says-beat-your-wives","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/investigate-islam.com\/web\/?p=1190","title":{"rendered":"Islam says \u201cBeat your wives\u201d???"},"content":{"rendered":"

Could you please tell me why the Quran tells men to \u201cbeat them<\/em><\/strong>\u201d meaning their wives? (chapter 4, verse 34)<\/p>\n

Answer:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Thank you for asking about Islam. It is our committment to try our best to provide answers to questions to the best of our ability. However, sometimes we come across questions for which we do not have answers. In this case we will refer you to others who may be able to provide you with proper answers.<\/p>\n

Please be aware that we as Muslims, must never lie about anything, especially our religion.<\/p>\n

Secondly, we do have the original text of the Quran and the preserved teachings of Muhammad, peace be upon him. This enables us to verify exactly what was said, intended and taught by Muhammad, peace be upon him, as being the religion of Islam.<\/p>\n

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Third, I would like to remind myself and all who read this in the future that not all questions are purely questions. Some contain statements and implications, that may or may not be true.<\/p>\n

Finally, it is important to keep in mind anytime we discover something in the answers to actually be better than what we already have, we should be committed to change our position and accept that which is true over that which is false and take that which is better for that which is inferior.<\/p>\n

After taking all of the above into consideration, if we find that the answer to this question provides us with a better approach to understanding what Almighty God has provided us with as a way of life on this earth and in the Next Life, we should then make the logical decsion to begin to worship Him on His terms.<\/p>\n

Having said that, let us now look to the particular verse in question in the original text (Arabic), followed by the phonetic sounds in Latin letters and then finally, followed by a translation of the meaning to the English language by experts in both Arabic and in Quranic meanings.<\/p>\n

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Transliteration
\n<\/strong>Alrrijalu qawwamoona AAala alnnisa-i bima faddala Allahu baAAdahum AAala baAAdin wabima anfaqoo min amwalihim faalssalihatu qanitatun hafithatun lilghaybi bima hafitha Allahu waallatee takhafoona nushoozahunna faAAithoohunna waohjuroohunna fee almadajiAAi waidriboohunna fa-in ataAAnakum fala tabghoo AAalayhinna sabeelan inna Allaha kana AAaliyyan kabeeran<\/p>\n

Explanation (tafsir) of Sura <\/strong>4:34<\/strong>
\nHere is the translation of meaning of the verse as best can be defined according to the rules of understanding Quran with the explanations following this translation:<\/p>\n

\u201cMen are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah), and guard in the husband\u2019s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband\u2019s property, etc.). Regarding the woman who is guilty of lewd, or indecent behavior, admonish her (if she continues in this indecency then), stop sharing her bed (if she still continues doing this lewd behavior, then), [set forth for her the clear meaning of either straighten up or else we are finished and when she returns to proper behavior take up sharing the bed with her again], but if she returns in obedience (to proper behavior and conduct) then seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Meaning of the Words<\/strong>
\nFor the three words\u00a0fa\u2019izu<\/strong><\/em>,<\/strong> wahjaru<\/strong><\/em>, and\u00a0wadribu<\/strong><\/em> in the original, translated here \u2018speak to them in a persuasive manner\u2019, \u2018leave them alone (in bed –\u00a0fi\u2019l-madage<\/strong><\/em>\u2018<\/strong>),\u2019 and \u2018have intercourse\u2019, respectively, see\u00a0Raghib Lisan al-\u2019Arab<\/em> and\u00a0Zamakhsari. Raghib<\/em> in his\u00a0Al-Mufridat fi Gharib al-Qur\u2019an<\/em> gives the meanings of these words with special reference to this verse.\u00a0Fa-\u2019izu<\/em><\/strong>, he says, means to\u00a0\u2018to talk to them so persuasively as to melt their hearts<\/em>.\u2019
\n(See also v.63 of this Surah where it has been used in a similar sense.)<\/p>\n

Hajara \u2013 Wahjaru<\/em><\/strong> (do not touch or moleste them)
\nHajara, he says, means to separate body from body, and points out that the expression wahjaru hunna metaphorically means to refrain from touching or molesting them. Zamakhshari is more explicit in his Kshshaf when he says, \u2018do not get inside their blankets.\u2019<\/p>\n

Here is the translation of meaning of the verse<\/strong> as best can be defined according to the rules of understanding Quran with the explanations following this translation:<\/p>\n

\u201cMen are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah), and guard in the husband\u2019s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband\u2019s property, etc.). Regarding women guilty of lewd, or indecent behavior, admonish her (if she continues in this indecency then), stop sharing her bed (if she still continues doing this lewd behavior, then), [set forth for her the clear meaning of either straighten up or else we are finished and when she returns to proper behavior take up sharing the bed with her again], but if she returns in obedience (to proper behavior and conduct) then seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Let me begin by explaining the English language is not powerful enough <\/strong>when it comes to translating the meanings of the Arabic of the Quran. Nor for that matter, is any other language on earth. So, all we have is translations of meanings according to the best understanding of the translators.<\/p>\n

The operative word<\/strong> in this verse in Arabic is \u201cdaraba<\/em><\/strong>.\u201d While there are literally hundreds of uses for this word varying from \u201ctap\u201d to \u201cwalk in stride\u201d to \u201cstrike at something\u201d to \u201cset a clear example\u201d, the only meaning that can be assigned to something in the Quran must be according to the rules of Quran. And Allah has used the same word a number of times with a consistent meaning. Let us examine them.<\/p>\n

Here is what we find from the scholars of the Arabic language:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Daraba<\/em><\/strong> (to have intercourse, not to beat)
\nRaghib points out that\u00a0daraba<\/em><\/strong> metaphorically means to have intercourse, and quotes the expression darab al-fahl an-naqah, \u2018the stud camel\"\"covered the she-camel,\u2019 which is also quoted by Lisan al-\u2019Arab. It cannot be taken here to mean \u2018to strike them (women).\u2019 This view is strengthened by the Prophet\u2019s authentic hadith found in a number of authorities, including Bukhari and Muslim:\u00a0\u201cCould any of you beat your wife as he would a slave, and then lie with her in the evening?\u201d<\/strong> There are other traditions in Abu Da\u2019ud, Nasa\u2019i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad bin Hanbal and others, to the effect that he forbade the beating of any woman, saying:\u00a0\u201cNever beat God\u2019s handmaidens.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Source: al-Qur\u2019an: a contemporary translation by Ahmed Ali, Princeton University Press, 1988; pp78-79<\/p>\n

Daraba<\/em><\/strong> (to set forth, to make a clear statement or proclamation)<\/p>\n

One of the key rules of understanding words of the Quran is to go to other places in the Quran to investigate the usage in other places.<\/strong> This word is used by Allah in other places in the Quran to mean \u201cset forth\u201d or \u201csets up for you\u201d or \u201cmakes known to you\u201d \u2013 as is demonstrated in the following verses:<\/p>\n

Surah Ar-Ra\u2019d (13:17) yadribu Allahu al-amthala \u201cThus Allah sets forth a parable\u201d<\/em>
\n[here the word “yadirbu” is from the exact same root da-ra-ba<\/strong>]<\/p>\n

Surah Ibrahim (14:24): Alam tara kayfa daraba Allahu mathalan .. \u201cDon\u2019t you see how Allah sets forth a parable?.<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n

And again in the next verse: Surah Ibrahim (14:25) wa yadribu Allahu al-amthala li-naasi
\n\u201c..and Allah sets forth parables for mankind..\u201d
\n [again the word yadirbu is from da-ra-ba]<\/strong><\/p>\n

Surah An-Nur (24:35) wa yadribu Allahu al0amthala lin-naasi
\n\u201cAnd Allah sets forth parables for mankind..\u201d<\/p>\n

Surah Ar-Rum (30:28) Daraba lakum mathalan min anfusikum
\n\u201cHe sets forth for you a parable from yourselves..\u201d<\/p>\n

Surah At-Tahreem (66:10) Daraba Allahu mathalan lillatheena kafaroo..
\n\u201cAllah sets forth an example for those disbelievers..\u201d<\/p>\n

In fact, the word daraba has not been translated to mean (<\/strong>beat<\/strong><\/em>) or (hit) or (strike) in any other verse of the Quran except this one.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The words for (beat) as in [to hit] found in Surah Baqarah 2:275<\/strong> \u2026 kama yaqoomu allathee\u00a0yatakhabbatuhu<\/em> ash-shaytanu mina almassi..
\n\u201c..like the standing of someone beaten by the devil (Satan) leading him to insanity.<\/em>\u201c<\/p>\n

And in Surah Ta Ha 20:18<\/strong> Allah Says, \u201cQala hiya Aasaya atawakkao Aalayha waahushshu<\/em> biha Aala ghanamee waliya feeha maaribu okhra.\u201d
\n\u201cThis is my stick, whereon I lean, and wherewith I beat down branches for my sheep and wherein I find other uses.\u201d
\nAs you can see, these are not even related to the word (daraba).<\/p>\n

Verses 34 and 35 in Surah An-Nisaa\u2019 need to be read together <\/strong>to understand this is the proper relationship between men and women in general and husband and wife specifically.<\/p>\n

Islam seeks to hold the family together and to make peace and reconciliation between spouses<\/strong>. The next verse makes it clear what to do in the case where it seems that divorce may be the result of the uncorrected bad behavior. It stresses appointing arbitrators from both sides and seeks reconciliation.<\/p>\n

The first part of 34 deals with all men taking care of all women. <\/strong>Then goes on to explain the wife\u2019s proper obedience to Allah because He is the One Who has ordained this relationship of provision and protection for her and to be appreciative and respectful of her husband, guarding herself and his property in his absence. The man is told the proper way to behave when he finds his wife not complying with decency and proper behavior of a Muslim wife. He has a direct order to begin with admonishing her and then if there is compliance to leave her be and don\u2019t give her a hard time about it. However, if this continues, he should not have sex with her and this makes it clear to her that he is most serious and this not a joke. Again, if she comes around then he is to let it go and not bother her about it. Finally, if she still insists on such lewdness and bad conduct, he is to make it clear to her in no uncertain terms that they are going to be heading for separation or even divorce unless she comes back to proper behavior. Again, if she complies, then he should not bring it up and return to the bed with her.<\/p>\n

And of course, this is all in an effort to translate one short but powerful phrase from Arabic to English<\/strong>. The sources are quoted herein and there may be other interpretations but the only acceptable ones are those based on the teachings of the Quran and the prophet, peace be upon him.<\/p>\n

And as always, Allahu \u2018Alim (Allah is the Knower)<\/strong><\/p>\n

Source: al-Qur\u2019an: a contemporary translation by Ahmed Ali, Princeton University Press, 1988; pp78-79<\/p>\n

In the past, some translators of this verse have mistakeningly used the word \u201cbeat\u201d or \u201chit\u201d or even \u201cscourge\u201d <\/strong>(as in the case of an old translation) to represent the word \u201cdaraba\u201d in Arabic. This is not the opinion of all scholars especially Raghib and Zamakhshari as mentioned above and those who are well grounded in both Islam understanding and the English language.<\/p>\n

34.<\/strong>
\nMen are the protectors and maintainers of women, because All\u00e2h has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to All\u00e2h and to their husbands), and guard in the husband\u2019s absence what All\u00e2h orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband\u2019s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, All\u00e2h is Ever Most High, Most Great.<\/em><\/p>\n

The understanding now is that some of the translations are not properly representing the spirit of the meaning<\/strong>. Therefore, they cannot be considered to be the representation of what has been intended by Almighty God.<\/p>\n

Now we can properly understand that Almighty God has commanded the men to provide for the women and allow them to keep all of their wealth, inheritance and income without demanding anything from them for support and maintenance. <\/strong>Additionally, if she should be guilty of lewd or indecent conduct, the husband is told to first, admonish her and then if she would cease this lewdness. If she should continue in this indecency, then he should no longer share the bed with her, and this would continue for a period of time. Finally, if she would repent then he would take up sharing the bed with her again.<\/p>\n

And Allah is All Knowing of the meanings.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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